“Then God said, ‘Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness . . .’. So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” Genesis 1:26-27

God created us as social beings; we are made to live in community. It’s only through encountering others that we really recognise who we are and find fulfilment for our lives.

The price of a fruitful relationship is none other than commitment. As people – especially as Christians – we often react ambivalently to the term ‘commitment’. In those relationships and agreements that are important to us we expect commitment from those involved, because ultimately, we don’t want to suddenly feel alone, frustrated, disappointed or let down. Commitment creates a secure framework for us to engage with others and to begin forming and developing structure and organisation. Without commitment, nothing lasting can be achieved.

We have a longing for commitment; security and the ability to depend on others are basic human needs. However, we often react reluctantly, with unease, when confronted by commitment. Commitment has two sides. On the positive side are the results: reliable, secure, trustworthy relationships; agreements that not only shield and protect us but allow us to open up and prosper. However, the less attractive side to commitment is the costs, such as the ties, obligations and accountability for our words and actions, that we enter into.

We would really like to keep all our options open, so we don’t miss any opportunities. The thought of becoming accountable to strangers is uncomfortable. We start to fear that our freedom will be limited, that we will lose our independence, and that others will end up dictating our lives.